Why We Decided to Elope in Secrecy
We wanted to be able to enjoy our time together as a newly wedded couple, not waste it entertaining everyone else. Our day was about us.
First off, I want to tell my husband happy 2nd anniversary and I love you!
When I was younger, I always pictured myself being walked down the aisle by my daddy. I wanted big flower arrangements along the aisle, with white seats, and a floral arch at the altar. I thought of all the destinations I could possibly have this wedding so all my extended family could attend. But the more I grew up, the less I envisioned those fantasies, and the more I envisioned just my husband and me.
There’s something about having something as intimate as an elopement ceremony. Of course, there’s pros and cons to having an elopement, but we definitely think that the pros outweighed anything bad we could think of.
Your love can be celebrated intimately
I truly believe that something as intimate as a marriage between two people should be the focus of the event. It’s about celebrating your love and finally coming together to form an unbreakable bond. I feel like so much time gets put into planning big weddings, that you almost lose focus on why you’re planning such a momentous event.
You don’t need to worry about the guest list
We had seven guests at our wedding. Seven. There was no need for any more than that. We enjoyed the company of our parents, godparents, and my sister-in-law. There was something special about being able to celebrate with the people who supported our love. Although my dad was unable to attend because he was currently at another overseas location… It also eliminates the difficulty of having to go through a massive list of people that you rarely talk to.
You don’t have to spend money on unnecessary items
Giveaways? Nope. Center pieces? Nope. Candies? Nope. A DJ? Nope. You don’t have to skim Etsy for any of the weird, non-essential wedding pieces if you elope. None of that matters. The only things that are going to matter are the things you want to fill your day with. You want to have that fancy breakfast with your family? Go for it. You want to spend a little extra money on your elopement photographer? Do it. No one ever keeps shot glasses with your initials on it anyway, so why waste the money?
You can spend more money on a destination wedding
We did our destination elopement wedding in Copenhagen, Denmark. It was relatively expensive for us because of the money conversion, but as far as expenses for elopement versus a wedding? Nothing compares. Our wedding turned into a vacation for our family, and we were all able to enjoy the city together. We were married in the Copenhagen Wedding Chapel at their city hall, and it was just beautiful seeing all of the couples there ready to say their vows to each other.
I’m not trying to talk down big weddings. If it’s for you, then it’s for you. If you had one, then I’m betting it was one of the best days of your lives. Especially if you’re sitting here disagreeing with everything I’ve been saying. I’m just saying that for those who are introverted like myself, elopements are the way to go. It’s just you and your partner, till death do you part.
Photos by Caroline Segre, 2017